DAYEdalera
Wednesday, July 16, 2008
Changing Plans
The most courageous act one can take is to MOVE ON. It is bravely to leave your comfort zone and swim into an environment of uncertainty. It is risky. It is as if you are leaving behind important people, things and memories and you can never look back as it will definitely pierce your heart.
It has been three months since I passed the bar exam, been in seventh heaven and joyously celebrated my success with the people I love and who loves me to death. Afterthought, the moment did not last. Day to day, the vigor of acquiring the titulo de abogado = ATTY. has faded and what is left is the huge expectation of other people from the title + my name.
I started feeling demoralized but I continued my routine, Work-Teach-Team Kapamilya Telenovela-in lieu of studying. Thanks to my family, Gil, Kuya Jan, Nysa and Bevy for keeping me sane on times that I cannot tolerate the pressure and have to cry out. I started loosing myself, the enthusiasm I have has gone a de minimis level and if this will persist, I may get total disillusionment.
Now, the three-month prescriptive period has expired.
It has been three months since I passed the bar exam, been in seventh heaven and joyously celebrated my success with the people I love and who loves me to death. Afterthought, the moment did not last. Day to day, the vigor of acquiring the titulo de abogado = ATTY. has faded and what is left is the huge expectation of other people from the title + my name.
I started feeling demoralized but I continued my routine, Work-Teach-Team Kapamilya Telenovela-in lieu of studying. Thanks to my family, Gil, Kuya Jan, Nysa and Bevy for keeping me sane on times that I cannot tolerate the pressure and have to cry out. I started loosing myself, the enthusiasm I have has gone a de minimis level and if this will persist, I may get total disillusionment.
Now, the three-month prescriptive period has expired.
I am left with no option but to execute, plan B.
Yeah, CHANGING PLANS, I am.
Yeah, CHANGING PLANS, I am.
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It's about time ate Daye. Though I do not know your plan B. (",)
My current boss once told me, never to swim around my comfort zone because it leads to complacency.
Know, quotable quote from me: There's a big gap between knowing and doing. If we just know but we don't practice, it's as good as never knowing at all.
Whatever your plans are, I wish you good luck and more wisdom.
I miss you ate Daye!
Donnabee
P.S. I'm still hoping you or kuya Jan can sign with me in the Philippine Peso bill. Hehehe.
Hi Donna.
Thanks for dropping by. I miss you in the blogsphere, in the apartment, in our midnight kikay talks and the beads. =)
Though, I'm happy for you and Jay and Jaynna..
Plan B is yet to come, in the right time, but hopefully soonest. Maybe after the payback.
Don't worry seeing my name beside your name as BSP governor is not a surrendered dream afterall. :)
Miss you. Kisses to Jaynna.
Ate Daye
and i miss you both.... (makasingit lang, hehe)
"blogosphere", hanep! buti na lang at may blog, may kwentuhan pa rin tayo, salamat kay Dr. M...
plan b: kahit ano pa yang plan na yan, sana magkita kita pa rin tayo... signatures nyong dalawa sa 1,000.00 php bill tas maraming kopya sakin, ok na sakin un,hehe...
daye, inuman nga tayo minsan.. kakamis...
cge kcali...inuman tayo jan sa LA, padalhan mo ako ng pamasahe..hehe.
:D
Don't worry...bibigyan kita ng maraming kopya ng pera na nakasign ako..hehe.
regarding to ur dilemma mam daye, i believe u shud decide based on your happiness, coz f ur not happy u will not be able to function well and you r less satisfied towards the things u have done. i dont know f my opinion will be able to help or bring clarity to ur dilemma but one things 4 sure leave everything to god and he will lead u 2 d right path...
"LEAVING ISNT GOODBYE"
sabe nga po ni abraham moslow, self actualization po ang pinakmhalga sa tao, you can never regret your decision kung hindo ka po susubok.
palagi ninyo lang pong itatanong sa sarili ninyo na "what if ginawa ko to..what if sinubukan ko siya..." siyempre po you can never know the emotional, psychological etc consequences kung hindi ninyo po ittry. and life is too short to stay inside the box.
besides being him as second father doesnt end po dahil iiwan ninyo po ang work ninyo because im sure na anjan po kau anytime he needed your help.,. =kung nagaalala po kayo sa kung pano ninyo po siya ippliwang, tell it the way na sinbe niyo po samen dahil ramdam po namin ang honesty and sincerity sa pagkakakwento ninyo po=
tungkol naman po samen syempre too bad talga..as in ramdam namin ang sobra sobrang kwalan sa learning pero naiintindihan po namen ang need na "makita ng tao ang kanyang sarili" dahil in the first place kaya po kame nakakaramdam ng ganitong klaseng kawalan if ever dahil na rin sa desire namen sa pansariling actualization and im sure na whenever we need inquiries sure po kame na anjan po kayo to give legal advice. ü
kaya saken po hindi po porket aalis na kayo from work iiwan ninyo na po ang lahat..,.ü at mas marerealize natin ung totoong "calling" kapag naransan na natin lahat..mamaterialize ang mga desire at masagot ang mga tnong....
good luck po libre sa unang sweldo hehehe
hi mam daye.,
i made a post in my blog specially for you., :)
http://janmania.blogspot.com
tc., :)
btw., i forgot to mention, you can publish that po., :) hehehe., :)
http://janmania.blogspot.com
i hope you can get some tidbits from my experience., :)
thanks po., :)
Mam daye…well…your situation is very tough…so tough that I don’t know kung ano ung iccomment ko…haha…pro as u’ve said nga po, u wanted to change your plans, cguro po you may consider two things…1st is that making sure that you’ll be happy with it. And 2nd is that it will satisfy you as a person and as a lawyer as well as it will help you to become a much more improved person…(anuh dw?)hehe…it would be uncomplicated sana kc kung alam po ni boss na nagpa interview kyo…pro since hindi nga po niya alam, maybe it would be better na you will tell him first the situation b4 po kayo magpa interview…so that it will not give you guiltiness db?
Sometimes its good to take the risks din kc eh…so, ol i can say is dat,as long as you think that u'll be happy with your new plans then be it…for sure all things will fall into places…everything happens for a reason nga dw po db?..well…cguro God gave you that circumstances so as to test you…☺
Prang hindi nmn helpful ung mga cnabe ko..hehe..☺
*pro usually pag hindi rin aq mkpagdecide on certain things, nagppray aq tpos magttoss coin aq…wahaha..lalim db?..(secret lng un mam)hehe…cge po til here…wish u luck!☺☺☺
hi ma'am! having my heart broken, slightly made me impaired of thinking and doing the things that i should do..hayz..buti n lng n-immune po aq s recitation knina..ala lng,unting share lng poh..
about changing plans..honestly, maybe i can say this bcause i'm not in ur situtation, nd dat i dont feel da same way u feel for ur boss, kc d q po exactly alam how u and ur boss are..but if i were u, i will go with my heart's desire..db nga po, change is the only constant thing in the world..dont let urself po 2 be confined with things that ur not happy anymore..i'm a risk taker po kc, kaya gnito..so f u really want po 2 let urself in, in a new world..go po..s npag-uspan nga po nmin ni katie..
"leaving is not a goodbye"..there's still hi and hello again.. d po masama n mang-iwan..bsta po d makakalimot..un po i guess is da important part, plus da fact dat ur decision will do great for u..and will make u happy..
un po..i invited po pla kau sa multiply..
been there littlesis, and still struggling in life... leaving the comfort zone may be good or not, but you will never know what awaits you until you've tried *WINK*
thank you for the weekend telebabad.. medyo nabawasan boredom!
love,
ate
Katie, Pau, Jan Richard, Claire and DyeAr (unpublished commnent)...
Thanks for your insights..you are really mature individuals already. All the best.
Stay happy. C u Saturday!
Sis,
thanks for cheering me up and the weekend telebabad. =)
Conquer Los Angeles Doctora!
REPOST FROM MOMMY GETTE:
plan b? oh am i ignorant bout this? hey there, baby, whatever it is that is dragging you to the verge of insanity, well, try taking a few steps back and just listen..listen with your heart and pure consciousness, with what your heart and soul are actually saying. and maybe this might help, my fave lines from immortal INVICTUS: "IT MATTERS NOT HOW STRAIT THE GATE, OR HOW CHARGED WITH PUNISHMENTS THE SCROLL, I AM THE MASTER OF MY FATE. I AM THE CAPTAIN OF MY SOUL." --awesome and powerful
from the one who loves you to death
*****
Mommy Gette, thanks I felt your love and support in this multiply message. I Love you to death as well!
mam daye,
hi po...i remember nung cnv nyo sa surprise party nyo sa lp,na w8 po nmn til 2010 for legal service nyo dhil sa boss nyo pnsslmtn nyo sa bait...like ung kinunsult nyo po smn, 4 me ngwa nyo na po ipkita sknya kung gaano nyo xa pnsslmatan sa mga bgy na nai2long nya po sainyo or may iba pa pong way kung saan maari nyo ipkita ang psslmat nyo...this tym nmn po mam daye sarili at future nyo po muna ang icipn nyo po,hindi po xa sa pagiging selfish...kundi hinahanap nyo lng po kung saan po kayo msya at plgay nyo po san kau nbbgy...hop mam daye may nai2long po aq...if ever m2loy po yn,mamimiz po tlga nmn kau...God Bless n Take Care!!!tnx po pla 4 understanding my condition last meeting...natouch po aq...tenx mom...
hi mam.l8 na po ata ung comment ko.hehe.regarding po dun sa cnbi nyo.tingin ko po magi2ng happy ung boss nyo if makapg decide kau na tanggapin ung offer sa inyo. the fact na nging very supportive po cia sa inyo nung nasa law school kau.i think magi2ng sobrang happy po cia kc maki2ta nia na magi2ng hapi kau sa ga2win nyo.cguro nga po magta2mpo un ng konti pero maiintindhan dn kau nun. saka kau na din po ngsabi na ung opportunity na un ung hnhntay nyo. so go 4 it mam kng dun kau magi2ng masaya.
gudluck po mam. godblez.
wah I do not know what to say pero
Mam Daye
to be honest syempre natatkot ako na if ever you decided to pursue to practice in private mlaki ang mgiging epekto nun samen wahh.. sobrang saya ko na to have you sa our prof dahil nga you let us exp the environment of a law skul hmm... at tlgang tlgang nainspire ako at nging pursigido to pursue LAW..
pero di ba... tama yun, you did not study for 5 years just to write
kung ako man ang nasa sitwasyon syempre sobrang tagal at sobrang hirap na pinagdaanan mo sa law skul and it is now the time para anihin ko anu amn yung pinagubusan mo ng dugo oras at pawis sa loob ng limang taon.....
kung tlgang sasaya ka dyan di ba..
and that is the purpose of atty. hehehehe to grow and to grow
Im sure maiintindahn ng boss mo yun kc nga di ba dun ka mas sasaya at dun ka mas uunlad
sabi mo nga mam He is like a father to you
Im sure a father would choose nt to see her daughter if her daughter is hapi and she is living her dream......
at kung aku man ang nasa kalagayan mo syempre saya ko na dahil atty na ako and I have a very kind boss na alam ko na maiintindhan ang pag-alis ko....
hehehehehehe
tnx tnx tlga at kung pipiliin mo Mam Daye to practice
wah sana ok pa din ang klase naten at mas gumanda pa kc nasa practice na kyo atleast mas mdami na kyo maiituturo kc madadagdagan ang exp
mo
hahahaha ayu ngo and turn that dream into reality....
G.Scer. (BPS 4-2)
hmmm... looking at you while nag explain kayo about sa situation nyo,, i can see na nahihirapan talaga kayo... well ganyan daw talaga..
now,, what am i suppose to say?? i dont have that much exprienz pa kasi,, ayaw koh sana mag marunong,,,
i have a Q. lang maam about dun sa boss nyo...
"kasi i can see from the way you say it na you have a really great boss, mabait, ideal boss,, you know... Q. is, kamusta yung magiging boss moh kung sakali?? pano kung hindi xa tulad nung date?? ready kba dun?"
pero maam,, ung tingin koh poh SAYO,, you will surely follow your dreams naman talaga eh... on my perspective lang,, its a matter of time lang siguro,, kung you will take another step towards your dreams now or later nalang... tingin koh yun ung delema dun...
kung ngayon nyo na i ggrab un opportunity,, well thats great,, pero baka may konteng mess ksi hindi payata kayo nagpapaalam na your planning to liv ur work na...
pero kung hindi ngayon?? may susunod pa kayang oppurtunity?? ngeeeeeeeeee,,,, i know your very optimistic naman eh,, kaw pa maam,,, hehehe...
on my opinion,, dapat talaga,, gawin natin lahat ng makakaya natin para matupad ung mga pangarap natin "without living mess behind..."
thats all in my mind ryt now.. well i wish you courage on what ever path you will take.. thank... -j. waniwan
...eow mam!!
kung late ung kay joanna,mas late ata ung sken!!
maling mali kau dun mam...tsktsk...dpat shnare nyo muna s boss nyo khit d kau sure kung mtatanggap b kau o nd...bka mwindang xah pag bgla k nlng ngpaalam db??
pero kung akoh nman ang tatanungin..go for it,syang kasi ung opprtunity ei...minsan lng yan!!mtanggap man kau o nd atliz tnry nyo db??pero magpaalam muna kau s boss nyo..un lang...mkapagcomment lng...hehehe
gudluck poh kung nu mang mgging dcsion nyo...
Ma'am Daye,
FOLLOW UR HEART.
Hehe, prang ewan lng poh eh noh. Anyway, kidding aside poh, i knw how difficult to be in that situation. You have to choose between the two, maintaining the status quo or try new opportunities.
Well, u shud decide base on what will mke you happier. Yup, its not that easy bcoz of ur very kind boss. But 4 me, if you treats him lyk ur second father and he also treats you lyk his daughter, he will understand watever ur dcision wud be.
Un nga lng, nkakalungkot po tlaga kung ndi na nmen kau mggng prof... but im willing to make adjustments just 4 u to stay as our professor on intro to law.
Kudos ma'am daye!
(u can publish this mam)
hi mam daye...
about your dilemma poh, as you were narrating you dilemma last saturday, i really felt the desire for that new opportunity you are about to face...
(the issue is whether or not to pursue the new opportunity that came to you...)
as what you have narrated in your story, di nmn poh msma n mgtry ng bgo...
llo n poh if it is for your betterment and if it will make you whole as a being.
making tough decision is hard but if that decision will compensated you a better environment, better insights bout life, better experiences that will make you a better person...GO!
sbi nga nila..THERE'S NO HARM IN TRYING...ang msma ung ndi ngTry tpoz mgsisisi sa huli...
kz poh kung aq ang nsa lugar nio ngaun, isang npakalaking opportunity ang papakawalan q kung di q xa igaGrab...isang bagay n dapat pagsisihan kung mawawala.
uhm...about the situation with us, your students, it will be also hard for us but we want you to pursue the things that will make you happy and complete. we dont want to be the hindrance to achieve your goals.
about your boss...im sure, telling him the truth will set your worries free...hehehe..
surely, he'll be happy for you.
though it will be hard for him, he'll understand.
mam...i, personally, will be happy for you.
ma'am,
when you passed the bar, your boss i for sure had known that you'll leave him soon. he might just be waiting for you to ask and initiate the move. he had let you get off from work and had given you a lot of reconsiderations as you said because he wanted you to be someone he can be proud of someday. otherwise he could have held your back and made you stucked up person who'll be with him. he'll understand. you'll know when you ask.
mam daye,
f i were u mam daye i would choose the new opportunity kc po nde po drating seniu yan f it is not meant 4 u..(mlinaw nmn db?) ..and also i can see na gus2 niu dn nmn, so take it. dnt wori bout ur boss ako n pong ka2usap dun, wow? i mean ms maiintindhan nia kau kc ur just improving urself. go mam daye kya muh yan! ms exciting yan promise..
gudluck po mam..
universe conspires..
hi mam daye,
well..i hope my comment was not really late at all..hope po you can still read this before you laid ur final conviction bout your dilemma..if i were on your shoes..mybe I'll extend p po my stay in the office til this december 2008..ika nga po..inreturn and for the gratitude s boss nio po..who became very kind to you and became your 2nd father and a close friend to your heart..for sure there will be many promising opportunities to come..and i think from this month til december..it would be enough pra po sa boss nio n mg adjust sya til the day you left the office and sibihin nio n din po n blak nio n tlaga umalis.
..on the other hand..as what you have said po n d na kayo ganun khappy s everyday work..go on po s opportunity n ndidyan ngaun..if it will make you happy, contented and reach the point of self-actualization..just go po..i know naman po u can overcome the risks..don't be afraid po to try new environment.mas matakot po kayo na di nio n try..mas nkakapagsisisi pag di nio ntry..lagi nio lang maiisip ang "ifs" and all the positive possiblities n mangyayayri if ntry nio po..just follow po what you feel and think..and from the tolers po..our principle: "universe conspires"..the universe will cospire s nio..bsta think positive po lagi..but never set aside the negative things that may arise para po less disappointments..besides pag umalis po kayo sa office..for sure you'll find ways and means to get in touch with your boss..for sure your boss would be happy po seeing you growing..basta po..mas matimbang p din po itong 2nd opinion ko..
..pahabol po..bsta mam daye..wag nio po kami igigive up..honestly po..our class really enjoys our discussion..personally..khit lagi po ako bangag sa puyat s class nio naeenjoy ko po tlga class nio..kahit ihing ihi na po ako nung saturday..hehe..Goodluck po and Godbless!(",)fk
hi po mam...
lucky hir,,
ahm just to share a comment well...
"bee happy...while your still alive for your a long time,,,dead///
seriously poh,,logically speaking,,,
choose what do u think is da best for u,,buhay mo yan mam...and besides opportunity comes once ,,we better grab it,,, dhil kung ako po ang tatanungin nio...
bka mging selfish ako,,,kse po we cant aford to lose one of those best prof we ever had,,,
hehehe,,,wag nio muna ko tatawagin ah..
pero mam if ever man na nkapag dcyd n kaung piliin ang career na un,,,were all willing to adjust our sked to d best that we can do...AND AS LONG AS WE CAN..
we all wish u d peace of mind and a guidance in making ur bestest if not d best decision...
more power to you mam...
remamber,,,dont forget to smile...
ALWAYS BEE HAPPY..
pwede po nga pla tong ipagkalat sa public..without public humiliation xemPre...
oh mam my natutunan ako ha..
GOD SPEED
Wey maam! Jezza hir. Maam, no1 can say to you tht u don't have sense of gratitude or that thing "utang n loob" if ever u choose to leave d judiciary.
D fact tht at the tym u'r still studying in law school nd u did evrythng to pass, u even made it to d bar!...that's d best form of 'THANK YOU' u can offer ur boss.
and kya nga po kyo hinahayaan noon n maaga mkauwe, so that u can study better at mging best nd most talked about lawyer in d country! E ndi po un mangya2re kung...sbi nyo nga po...mgtatype lng kyo 4evr ng SCRA, d b po?
Kso maam,ngaragin nyo n po sarili nyo, kc isi2ngit nyo p po kmi s hetic sched nyo...ha..maam! kc kyo po tlga gz2 nmin prof s Law, ala ng iba.
Best of Lucks po s interview 2moro Atty. Daye!
oo nga pla, wg po ntin pnatlihing lihim ang mga pinagsa2bi q.
ma'am, if u think that living the judiciary will make u happier just do it.. db po sbi nyo ur boss is kind and cosiderate.. palagay ko nman maiintndhan nya kung sakali man n aalis n kau.. you have already proven ur loyalty to them..
go for it ma'am.. grab every opportunity that will allow u to prove urself and to discover everything in this world..
kya lng ma'am, sana u will still continue to be our prof.. honestly ur one of the few best professors we ever had.. khit sunday n lng po tau mg-class.. hehehe..
be happy...
hi mam daye...well, cguro super late na tong comment ko.xenxa na, i hope mkatulong to khit papanu..regarding dun sa decisions na kelangan niyong gwin, sa tingin ko po, go na keu dun sa law firm..kung un tlga ung gusto niu at sa tingin niyong ms mkakabuti sa inyo as a lawyer..ung cnsbe niyo pong boss niyo sa sc, sa tingin ko nmn maiintindihn niya un, if he truly wants kung anu ung best para sainyo.. tskah db, you strieve for this, so, goodluck po sa lhat..
MAM DAye DO IT!!!
gooday mam daye.. i wawaived ko po yung rights ko,, at rights kong mag bigay ng opinion.. heheh nonsense ba mam?/ pero kidding aside iniaaplly ko lang po ung natutunan ko sa subject moe mam,,, mam maybe hindi po ko ung pinaka magaling magadvise kc di ko un field eh.. hehehe.. pero mam,, tulad po ng gsto nila.. accept it mam, kung ang prob po eh ayaw mong iwan ang boss mo,, di ba po di namn mgandang reason yun para palagpasin po ninyo yung opportunity?? mam law is your passion.. at isa sa mgandang opportunity para madevelop po un eh,, ay ma ipraktis nyo po toh.. tulad lang po ng ginawa ko,, ang sarap sa feeling na nagagawa kung iaaply ung natutunan ko.. tama rin po si katie.. leaving isn't a goodbye kc di ka namn talaga aalis,, let say mam,, ur taking a new journey,, hindi npo ibig sbihin na iiiwan mo sila.. andyan ka pa din nman.. and lasly mam,, lam ko po namn na talagang gsto nyo..kaya for xure walang mgiging prob..hehehe...
Life has great options, but you don't always have to pick what seem to be the best.
Sometimes, the best and the perfect aren't always what makes you happy.
pili ka lang..
anong gusto mo..
kung yan ang tama sa'yo..
ang mahalaga dyan ka masaya..
yan ang totoo..
isigaw mo..
dapat nilang malaman..
sarap ng may pagpipilian...
ate daye, all the happiness and success is already in your hands, you just have to make it happen..
our boss loves you and will support you all the way..
whaa.. ayoko ng dumagdag pa sa gumugulo sa isip mo, basta kahit anong maging decision mo, gurlfriends pa rin tayo... kung aalis ka man, sasamain ka sakin.. harhar! mwah! love you te daye!
heidz,
thanks for the insight..your immunity in the recitation is paid by "advice".
Joanna, G.Scer, Lucky, Jeremeel, She, Jezza, Jessica, Luissa and Clarisse.
Thanks for you insights. :D
I am flattered to hear from you guys that you are willing to adjust our Saturday classes if ever I have to drop the class. Probably, stopping from teaching intelligent students like you is the last thing on my mind and it is a matter I am most certain at the moment.
Grab the opportunity..it's not easy eh! though I'm seriously considering.
I will let you know in a week time.
C u Saturday!
IVORY,
NAKABAWI KA SA AKIN DITO AH! PAGALITAN DAW BA AKO? HAHA.
Thanks though for a very courageous contempt of your professor.
GERALD,
FOLLOW YOUR HEART.. Aba kung ito lang ang basehan sana, I'd rather fly to Europe and spend time with my beloved. :D
I remember the Selecta Ad which popularized the "follow your heart" theme.
Thank you and I will seriously consider following my heart.Hahaha.
CARLO,
Of all the advices here, yours made my tears showed up for a while. Short but it has broken my heart in million pieces. DQ na naman si Mam Daye.Thanks for raising a valid point.
ANALEN,
Honestly, your suggestion is my Plan A. (staying til December).We have the same wave lenght na!
KARISMA,
Cge nga take charge! Ikaw na kumausap kay the Boss..haha!
Thanks my collaborating counsels.
Nysagurlfriend,
Gaya ng sabi mo "SASAMAIN ANG MAGPAPAHIWALAY SA ATIN!" so I honestly feel guilty if ever I will be leaving the office..
Though I know, you would be the happiest person for me if ever I move on and take the path to my career. You know how much it is my dream to appear in all black suit and stockings in court with a Prada boots...and staying where I am now will keep that dream far from reality.
Don't worry..I assure you that leaving my work station behind yours will go unnoticed because Im sure we will still be sharing the same bed when you visit the apartment. :D
Thank you for being a listener and a shock absorber. I know how much I am stressing you with all my dilemma in life.
Love you gurl!
DQ pa rin ako.. :(
No one is in control of your happiness but you, therefore, u have the power to change anything about yourself or your life that u want to change.
kau lang po ang makakapagdesisyon ng para senio..ng makabubute at ng magpapasaya..
parang lalake lang pu yan eh..(hehe)..dun pu tau sa makapagpapasaya at magtu2ro saten na maging BETTER PERSON..
gudluck po!..ejoy..
Thanks Ejoy.
See you Saturday..you will be reciting.Haha.
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